“Did you obtain any scholarships in school?”
“Was it your parents who paid for your schooling?”
“Yes, my parents paid for the whole thing, room and board, books, and classes.”
“Where did your parents work?”
“My mother worked as clothes cleaner and my father worked at the widget factory.”
“Have you ever helped your mother wash the clothes before?”
“Never, my mother always wanted me to study and do well in school. Besides, my mother can wash clothes faster than me.”
“Ah, I see.”
A child, who has been protected and habitually given whatever they’ve wanted, will develop an “entitlement mentality” and will always put themselves first. They will be ignorant of they’re parent’s efforts. When they start work, they assume that every person must listen to them, and when they reach a leadership position, they will never know the sufferings of their employees and will always blame others. For this kind of person, who may have succeeded academically, and while they may be successful for a while, eventually they will feel a missing sense of achievement. They will bitch and complain, grumble and whine, and be full of anger and disappointment at life, all the while they will fight for ever more entitlement. If we are this kind of protective parents, are we really showing love or are we destroying our children instead?
You can let your child live in a big house, eat a good meal, play piano, and watch television on a big screen. But when you are cutting grass, please let them experience it. After a meal, let them wash their plates and bowls together with their brothers and sisters. It is not because you do not have money to hire a maid, but it is because you want to love them in the right way. You want them to understand, no matter how rich their parents are, one day they will have to stand on their own and make their own decisions. The most important thing is that your child learns how to appreciate the effort, experience the difficulty, and learns the ability to work with others to get things done.
You may want to do everything for your child that you can, but we don’t. Entitlement is a terrible gift to give your children. And it ruins them for the rest of us.